The more I research for my upcoming VBAC (vaginal birth after caesarian), the more I learn about things I did wrong in my first birth.
- I became impatient and allowed my doctor to induce me, unaware of the process and the potential side effects.
- I did not do my research on how to adequately labor (hospital birthing classes are inadequate in this area and I wish I had known that when I began).
- I approached my first birth with fear. Fear over the process, fear over pain, fear over pooping while delivering (it’s true, I was afraid), fear over not being able to handle it.
Looking back, I am pretty upset with myself for making these choices. Especially the fear part. What I heard from well-meaning women was: “You’ll need the epidural.” “It hurts.”
There was no, “Your body is designed for this.” “You can do this.”
It wasn’t until after I spent many months researching and finding ICAN boards that I learned that I could indeed do it. That labor was not only survivable, but it was beautiful as well.
Now I am preparing for my second birth and I am planning for a VBAC. While I would love to hire a doula, I cannot. I am a little afraid of my lack of support, but I am doing everything I can to try to ensure a successful delivery.
I am looking for helpful advice. If you delivered vaginally (natural or epidural), what were some tips you wish you could pass along?
What would you have done differently?
What was the biggest help in delivering?
I really need your help in this area. If you have ANYTHING that you can share, please do!
Thanks in advance!